Is jealousy a sign of true love?
Man, what a load of crock, this careless statement is.
This was a point of debate in Light.FM yesterday (Wednesday June 20) between Simon and Caroline with their listeners.
You know you cannot answer this question with a simple yes or no.
One or two said "no, if you love him./her you shouldn't even be jealous" or "if you trust him/her you should not be jealous".
Yeah, yeah. All morally-correct statements but so hypocritical and pretentious.
People. We are human, We are no saints. We are given to the two horns coming out of our heads and the green in our eyes, some time (though not all the time because that spells trouble).
Unless, your heart is pure gold and really pure, then you are excused for not being human. So you are not prone to an iota of jealousy or envy.
PUHLEEEZE.
Any of you ever felt that tinge of jealousy or envy when someone pays unwanted attention on your beau and he/she responds in equal amount?
Don't lie. Unless you no longer care two hoots about your partner, then, yeah, I can understand that you don't give a damn who he/she flirts with.
Now, the truth, please. Don't you feel a tinge of hot flush from the pit of your stomache right up to your brain when your beau or the love of your life gets into a cosy chat with someone else?
But wait. In the first place, if he/she had any regard for you, he/she would not be doing that or get into that cosy situation, right?
You see, a little bit of jealousy is okay. In fact, good in, or for, a relationship. Keeps both of you on your toes. Keep the heart a-fluttering. That's what I think.
I mean, I don't care if Antonio talks to another woman. But, if he talks to this woman all night long and forgets that I exist, yes, I would get jealous.
But then, is jealousy the right word?
I'm not sure now. I would get hurt, yes. A little insulted too because, how dare he ignore me !
So... back to the question -- is jealousy a sign of true love?
Maybe a little. Too much means you are insecure and needy. And that is bad. So, in very small doses should be fine.
Non, mes amis? Que pensez-vous ?
10 comments:
Dearest Witchy Sister,
Ohhhhh what a difficult question. I still cannot answer this question "what is a true love?"
Now I am faced with "is jealousy a sign of true love?"
Anyway, you sum up your points beautifully sister. I hear ya!
Take care
Elviza dear,
true love is when your heart misses a beat, you break into imaginary cold sweat, and all you want is to just hold him...maybe kiss him too.
true love is -- the one you want to be with when the world ends, or marooned on an island.
forget the jealousy question, my dear.
take care.
Hi WitchB,
You're spot on there. This philosophical question cannot be answered with a simple yes or no. A good post though. But my friend Johnny once told me this. ' Don't marry a person you know you can live with. Marry someone that you cannot live without'.
Tony (SUP) : oh... i do agree...yes, i do. thank you, tony.
Dearest Witchy Sister,
I hope you dont mind that few of my close friends are also reading you now because I ask them to. I found the topics we talk about here in your blog are the thing I often yap with them about.
Now, your answer about true love. Is it the kind of feeling that sparks all the thunder is your heart? That one unexplainable tug in your heart?
You pace by the fone nervously and the moment it rings you wait a while before answering? Wishing it to be him/her on the line?
Can you have more than one true love?
not to me... when true love exists... there's absolute trust... and there will be no jealousy...
It is a difficult question to answer but I do agree with you about too much jealousy - it spells insecurity and neediness.
And this is what I found when I went in search for quotes on jealousy... :) I found this:
“Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy -- in fact, they're almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other. Both at once can produce unbearable turmoil...” - Robert Heinlein
Dear Portia,
thank you for visiting.
you sound a like a woman so in love but unsure whether you are.
if all that you said is what you're going through -- becos those cannot be questions about someone else - then, my dear, youi have found your true love.
and, no my dear..there cannot be more than one true love. it is quite impossible, there is just not enough space in your heart to give love that big to so many people.
of course, you love your parents differently, and your children differently. of course, the question is whether the man you married is you one true love. for many people i know, he is not. that is so tragic.
Portia, you sound like you are still single and just found someone who may just be THE ONE.
well... all the best and love life...
zewt,
you're a man after many girls' heart.
if everyone were like you, there would be no phrase such as "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" or tragic love triangle and crime of passion and so forth.
really, zewt, you have made your partner a very lucky gal.
i suppose the one big issue for many couples is trust.
thanks for visiting, zewt.
Dear JT,
quite heavy that quote by Mr Robert Heinlein.
and, of course, it is true. only that, we are human, prone to a range of emotions, one of which is jealousy.
indeed, this world will be a far better place to live in if there was no jealousy.
thanks JT for visiting.
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