Yeah, and I want to believe it. I haven't got a choice, have I?
But guess what? Antonio's namesake -Antonio Banderas the actor, the hunk - says it is wrong to see ageing as such a bad thing.
He says that ever since he and his wife, Melanie, have been together, she hasn’t had surgery.
But I remember reading somewhere that Melanie had a nip here and a tuck there. Must have read it in a gossipy tabloid.
Like who should I be believing, an unnamed source in a trashy supermarket tabloid or Antonio Banderas, the husband?
Antonio says wrinkles to him "are like medals."
He further says: "And I think getting old is great. I can’t read at night now without my glasses and I love them because I think they give me a certain dignified look.
I read somewhere that the sixties are the new forties. I’m really hoping that’s true."
Oh mercy me... my kind of man. A man after my own heart.
Yep. He said all that. Can you believe it?
(You can read it all here.)
I hardly think about ageing in the aesthetic sense, in that it means growing wrinkly and craggy. I know that I'll get wrinkly and craggy. All of us will, no matter how much cream we apply on our face and neck every night of everyday.
And I am no believer in plastic surgery or botox. Heaven forbids!
So, I will get all wrinkly.
Still, I'd want to grow old gracefully and how I am going to achieve that is through the state of my mind. Whether I am able to do that remains for me to see.
What I do think a lot more about are loneliness in old age and our financial stability in our twilight years. I think about illness, mortality and death.
But, there are times that I do think about ageing in the beauty and physical sense as it is related to how we would be if all that is gone in us.
For instance, will Antonio leave me for someone younger (or whatever) when he finds me no longer attractive. Will I not then be alone, and lonely?
Who will be my my side when I am older? Then I get even sadder. What if he goes before me?
Oh, I hate to be drawn into thinking about these things. So morbid.
Life can be cruel, I know. I see too many unhappy things around me. But, we cannot allow ourselves to be overwhelmed by the hopelessness in the world we live in.
I see so much positiveness too. Love and joy. Happiness. Bliss.
Wrinkles are like medals. I like that. I hope I see Antonio's wrinkles as medals, for a start. And if it's true that the 60s are the new 40s, who cares about wrinkles! Just bring on the 60s. I am so ready!
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A thoughtful piece you have here. It is true .. as much as I want to say that I don't think of all things morbid, it does invade my mind sometimes.
I need to think positively and live one day at a time. It is OK to plan for the future and try to cover the 'what ifs' but I think a person's life does not grow and expand if one keeps worrying about it.
So, Witchy sister, I am with you. Bring on the 60s because if that is our new 40s, I am ready to face it head on. :)
P.S. With the wonderful creams we have today, I think our wrinkles won't be that bad. hahaha
JT:
It comes with age, I reckon.
The older we get, the more we think about our own mortality.
And yes.... i believe in creams, exercise and eating well.
By the time I am 60, I'm sure they'll say that the 70s is the new 60s. Hahahaa.
Thanks, JT for visiting
I think it is our generation who keeps pushing it further. Yup.. I won't be surprised, as you said, when we reach 60, they'll say the 70s is the new 60s.
And .. because people keep living longer, not only will women prove that they still 'have it'.. we will not run short of ham sap men,either. (actually, there's nothing stopping them now!) hahahaha
that's what i have been saying all along until i found a strand of silver hair on my head last month, and noticed the new emergence of crow's feet near my eyes last week.
i sang a different tune after that, it goes like this...
"ARRRRGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!"
JT -- I hope I can prove it. you know, that i still have it when I am 70 -- if i live that long.
Thanks JT
T Sue: Oh dearie me... what have got here? a hysterical woman who found a strand of silver in her tresses and a few fine lines under her eyes.
dearie dearie me.
My dear sue, nothing to worry about.
just go get l'oreal colours or wella's.
and don;t forget the new-age eye cream that'sgood for crow's feet prevention.
OR... dont get stressed out. stress stimulates the production of grey/white hair and causes lines to appear on your face.
failing all this -- i shall concoct a special brew, whoops, I mean broo for you.
Sister,
I hate the phrase "growing old gracefully". Tell me where is the grace in those wrinkles I spotted on my forehead this morning (as a result of frowning all these years and yes I got a medical doc friend to confirm that!).
Where is the grace in my grey hairs I found since last year?
Where is the grace in my degil spots all over my face? Where? Where? Where?
I have given up on the cream as well! I tried from the most expensive to the cheapest cream. Local products, japanese products, american products....tried them ALL. NONE of it works.
There, I said my peace. And no, I know for a fact that I will not age gracefully.
I echo typhoon sue, ARGHHHHH
My dear sister Elviza,
How do I start analyzing you, your situation and your state of mind.
First: You must be young,elviza. You sound young. well, not y o u n g young. Perhaps in your 30s? or late 20s?
becos you just spotted a gray here and a line there and are hysterical, yeah,like typhoon sue.
(Sue dear, have you already wreaked havoc wherever you are, like a good old-fashion typhoon?)
second: are you under stress? i mean, a lot of stress? at work? or at home? or both?
you've gotta chill out,sista. de-stress. head for the neareast spa...
and don't frown.
now, about ageing gracefully. my dear elviza, there is such a thing as ageing gracefully.
there is grace in ageing.
oh,dear... you sound so anti-ageing.
grace in ageing comes from within and radiates your being.
I have seen many beautiful older women who seem to have a glow and radiance.
their hair is gray, or a little highlighted, they have lines... but they are beautiful.
they are lovely physically too,perhaps because they are fit physically, their mind is healthy as well.
now.... if all else fails, my dear elviza, as a witch, you see, i can prepare a potion for you -- for your eternal youth.
My dear sister,
Sadly, I have to say that you are right in all scores.
I am 32 to be exact but I look older. Its the job and its disastrous nature. The fact that I am a procratinator doesnt help one single bit.
The thing is sister, I do see ageing gracefully in other people, my mother included. However, dont see that happening to me! Hand me the elixir of youth sister. Dont tell anyone okay?
You take care sister
A quick note to let you know I found an interesting article at iVillage.com (have you heard of that website?)
Of course, I used their tips and added my two-cents-worth but do drop by my blog to pick up the link to get their opinion on the subject 10 Things Every Woman Should Try. :)
My dear Elviza,
I forgot to tell you that I have seen your picture in your blog.
How beautiful you are. That one strand of silver/white hair --- won't do anything to your looks.
you are just distressing yourself. if you believe you are old-looking, you will be.
32 is still so young.
remember, it's all in the mind.
you know something, you do not need any potion, not at all.
stay beautiful, sister. For you, i don't think it's difficult.
take care.
My dear JT,
thank you..i will.
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