10 Ways To Get Lucky At Love

Well, I am not one to rest on my laurel and let love takes its course. Just in case, you know what I mean...so just in case, I read stuff. I stumbled on this one. It has tips from psychotherapist/romance coach and author, Kathryn Lord, for those of you who are looking for that elusive mate.

According to the little write-up on her, Kathryn met her now husband Drew online. Out of the dating world for years, she conquered her fears, found her perfect mate and built a solid relationship.
She has written "Find A Sweetheart Soon! Your Love Trip Planner for Women."
Kathryn has been helping singles and couples for more than 25 years. She is on the web at Find-a-Sweetheart.com.

Just for fun, here they are:

1. Know what you want. Your looks change and fade, character does not. While a certain amount of "chemistry" is nice, don't rely solely on lust. What qualities are you looking for in a mate?
   
2. Get clear about what you don't want. Knowing what you really can't tolerate in a partner is important. Make a list of your "don't wants" and then cut it down to the 10 most important. Any more than that and you'll be too picky.
3. Live your life. Once you know clearly what you want (and don't want) in a relationship, shift your focus to living your life. You'll find that you start noticing those who might fit, and passing by those who don't.
4. See the big picture. Don't try so hard that you miss the obvious. If you are great at focusing, step back now and then and look at the big picture. Work on having a playful, whimsical attitude towards life.
5. Get out of the house . Cultivate opportunities to expand your social circle and meet
   new people. Vary your routine
6. Open your eyes and your attitude. Lucky people notice, create and maximize chance opportunities. Chat with other shoppers while you are waiting in line. Be ready with a "calling card" -- a personal business-type card with basic contact information.
7. Get curious. Don't content yourself with the obvious. Ask questions. Wonder why. Find answers.
8. Try something new. The best way to have things stay the same is to never do anything different. Vary your daily routine, just to keep yourself awake. Shake yourself up and notice what happens. Keep yourself open to chance opportunities, and then take advantage of them.
9. Expect good luck. Monitor your self-talk for negative messages that interfere with luck. Replace the negative thoughts with positives. Surround yourself with examples of lucky people.
10. Learn from bad luck. Take steps to prevent more bad luck from what you have learned, then let the "bad" go. Don't dwell on or rehash the bad experience. Look for the positive elements.

Of course, some of it is pure common sense while some of the common sense, I am sure, we somehow have overlooked or ignored. Perhaps it is just so common sense.
Some of it, I think is not so practical or pretty tacky. Or just so over-stated.

This is just for fun, for when you have nothing better to read. I am sure some of you are already an expert in the art of love and staying in love.