BAD BOYS

Okay. Let's own up here.
How many of us have fallen for that macho hunk who's anything but the boy next door? You know, you'd rather die than take him home to mom?
Yep.Thought so.When I was young-er, all my boyfriends had big bikes, wore leather jackets, smoked... oh you know, the whole works. But not all of them were bad.
Hunky men on big bikes are not necesarily bad boys. But your parents wouldn't be so quick to bless the "union".
But, let's talk about the real bad boys. The real McCoy.
Are they the eternal temptation? Many women think so because these boys make them feel good, according to a love expert by the name of Pat (what else) Love.
It's been found that they do make us feel good. But, women are so blinded by what these boys really are. Also it's got to do with our genetic make-up.
That's why we find them so irresistible because generally, most bad boys are handsome and elusive which is the attraction.
According to Ms Love who authored two books on love and relationship, this is largely a societal issue.
" We are programmed by our culture to think that chemistry is love. We are constantly stimulated by work, television, shopping, and we tend to move on if we're not excited. Also, some women's brains are wired to interpret anger and petulance as love because of their early negative experiences with men."
Wow! Ain't that something? I didn't know that, Ms Love.
Indeed, she has her own ideas and perception of the issue. Check this out.

Q: Why is it dangerous to be with a bad boy?
Pat Love: Well, they're unreliable. They don't feel an obligation to have a relationship. It's important to understand that when a woman has sex, she releases oxytocin and bonds with her partner.
Oxytocin is called the "snuggle chemical." It triggers orgasm, but it's also released when a mother breast-feeds. It makes you feel close and connected and vulnerable.
The effects of oxytocin are offset by testosterone, so a high-testosterone person doesn't bond from having sex. And there you have it: Bad boys don't get attached!
They say all these wonderful things, and you get this chemical rush that lowers your defenses. But he could be gone the next day. He could lose interest

And there are bad girls too, says Ms Love.

Pat Love: Oh yes, there are bad girls. They're usually very attractive women who feel entitled. They're used to getting everything, and they know how to work a crowd.

Pat Love warns women who keep falling for bad boys that there's this illusion, especially for young women - that there will always be men available.
"And the problem is, the more you go through the revolving door of infatuation, the less powerful it is.
"You build up a tolerance to it. If you're going to get a good guy, then you better be watching earlier in life. Don't waste your eggs! Because it's easy to overlook someone when you're wired to be attracted to bad boys.
"And if you sit around, waiting for someone to knock your socks off like that first love, then you're going to wait a long time.

Well, this article was quite a revelation. You can either believe her or take everything she says with that teeny weeny bit of salt. Still, it has made me think a lot. Still thinking. Meow.