Nobody likes getting dumped. I mean, like, duh! If we could, we'd like to be the one doing the dumping, right?Seriously, breaking up is never easy and, for many, really really hard to do. But if we could have just seen the signs, seen it coming, perhaps......
So, let me help you out here.
According to break-expert Elina Furman, there are top five signs you're about to get dumped. Here's the list, according to her (and in her words).
1. Picking fights. No one is saying you have to get along 24/7. Constructive conflict can actually be good for your relationship. But if you find that your partner has become argumentative over petty issues like your clothes or choice of restaurant, that should serve as a warning sign that he/she may be looking for an excuse to bail.
2. Forgetting to call. Used to be that your phone would ring all day long with your sweetie wanting to make plans or calling just to say, "I love you." Now your significant other doesn't even call when he/she is running three hours late. It may seem obvious, but going from speed dial to a blocked number is a sure sign that your relationship may be nearing its expiration date.
3. Changing their stripes. A major change in appearance can be a sign that your partner is looking toward greener pastures. Whether they've chopped off their hair, lost 40 pounds or gone from a bold brunette to a sultry blonde, major cosmetic changes should be noted. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being a little vain, but if the change is accompanied by any of the other signs listed here, you may need to get ready to go solo.
4. Criticizing. If your sweetie isn't feeling you anymore, don't be surprised if he/she becomes less tolerant of everything, from how you brush your teeth to how you tie your shoes. Constant criticism is a telltale sign that your days as a twosome are numbered.
5. Losing sexual interest. A healthy sex life can make or break a relationship. If you find that your partner is becoming more sexually aloof, you need to get to the root of the issue. While it's natural to have less sex as you settle into a comfortable groove together, waiting weeks or months to have sexual contact is a sign that something is amiss.
Okay, has Ms Furman helped you out?
But she says not to panic just because your partner exhibits some of these behaviours.
That doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is over.
Check out for a combination of signs and not one isolated incident that foreshadows a breakup.
Okay, has Ms Furman helped you out?
But she says not to panic just because your partner exhibits some of these behaviours.
That doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is over.
Check out for a combination of signs and not one isolated incident that foreshadows a breakup.
If you're worried that your partner is itching to get out, the most important thing you can do is sit down and discuss your issues in an honest and open manner. If you take these signs as your cue to improve communication, your relationship may just have a fighting chance.
My advice: ONLY if you think he's worth it!
6 comments:
Hear you sister! Only when he's worth it.
elviza dear,
don't you think so?
why bother if he just wants out?
take care, sister
Precisely sister. Precisely.
eliza:
sigh... sometimes i say the wisest thing to other people but not to me, myself and I.
Am i missing something here?
It is easier to see something from a third person's point of view because the third person has not invested in that relationship he/she is observing.
In any case, I too agree, that only when he is worth it, then the relationship is worth working out. That too, if he wants to work it out with you (because you can see him as worth it but does he see you in the same way)
If he doesn't, what is the point? We are back to "he's just not worth it." :D
JT:
This world can be cruel..
never easy to make the easiest, most logical decision.
becos, it is the heart we are talking about. the heart.
thanks. JT...
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