"There's nothing worth the wear of winning
But laughter and the love of friends."


You think so? Someone said one loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives.
Wow! That says a lot about the worth and value of friendship.

Have a great weekend! But don't sleep too much cos you'll miss seeing the world passing by.

Rugby's The Game, Man!

Aaah....check this out!
Rugby's really cool. I mean HOT!

Cures For a Broken Heart

"Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again; skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts." -Anonymous

Someone just broke your heart?
What are you waiting for? Go get a gun and shoot him! I swear that's sooo therapeutic.
But, oh! What if you decide to forgive him and he's already dead meat?
The regret will kill you. And the remorse will be a double dose of that.
Besides, you're not a killer.
And, yep, he aint worth all that.
But, there's an alternative. A sweet panacea.

According to David Romanelli, you should consider listening to country music and doing yoga.
He has nursed his broken heart -- I imagine many times -- with country music which seemed to work and he is a yoga expert.
So, I guess he knows what he's talking about.

Here's what he has to say:

There's very little in life that hurts as much as a broken heart. I always wished there were a guide on dealing with the pain of having loved and lost. So I'm gonna make an attempt at such a guide. Based on my many days dealing with a broken heart in what I call "the pain chamber," I'd like to share some thoughts on what's gotten me through:

First, listen to some country music.

Second, try listening to some country music.

Third, did I say country music?

Country songs cover some powerful lessons and wise teachings on handling the dark side of love. Depending on the day or the moment, any of the following tips might help...

1. Keep in mind that a broken heart is part of being human

Be wary of the person who hasn't dealt with a broken heart. No matter how strong you might be, if you're open to love, you're automatically vulnerable to pain. So don't feel bad if you’re in the pain chamber. Know that it's very normal and very much a part of being human. In "God Only Knows," Cynthia Ford sings about the unbearable pain that no amount of strength can overcome. She learns it's faith, not strength, that can get you through:

Somebody tell me if there's

any other way

I tried prayin' for strength

But it never came

So I'm praying for faith

Cuz God only knows

How hard this is for me

2. Light the fire

When dealing with heartbreak, sometimes it helps to get a little fired up! You can spend a lot of time bummed out and weeping, but at a certain point, it might help to get off your ass. Go for a run, lift some weights, scream if you must. Think Rocky Balboa meets the Karate Kid. In other words, get pumped. Check out Dierks Bentley's song "Forget About You" for inspiration:

I heard that ol' Jones song just the other day

'Bout a man who took that ol' broken heart to his grave

But I'll be damned if a memory's gonna lay me down

I might be walkin' around with a head full of air

Actin' kinda crazy but I don't care

This heart's barely beating, but I'll still be above the ground

I'll forget about you!

3. Take solace in the fact that things have a way of working out

It's hard to understand the first time your heart is broken. But over time, you come to realize that there's a certain rhyme and reason to life. As Garth Brooks sings, you may just become grateful for your "Unanswered Prayers":

She was the one that I'd wanted for all time

And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine

And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then

I'd never ask for anything again

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers

Remember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs

That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care

Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers

4. Feel the pain

We can exhaust ourselves fighting the pain. Allowing yourself to feel the pain rather than resist it sometimes can be very healing.

• Trying sitting with your ankles crossed in front you.

• Let your palms face up to symbolize a state of surrender. Someone once said, "Keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world; it's the beginning of a new life."
  

I like it.

A Sad Love

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Come, come, whoever you are.

Wonderer, worshipper, lover of leaving.

It doesn't matter.

Ours is not a caravan of despair.

Come, even if you have broken your vow

a thousand times

Come, yet again, come, come. -- Masnavi Book 1 - 599-607

You Know You're About To Get Dumped When...

Nobody likes getting dumped. I mean, like, duh! If we could, we'd like to be the one doing the dumping, right?
Seriously, breaking up is never easy and, for many, really really hard to do. But if we could have just seen the signs, seen it coming, perhaps......

So, let me help you out here.
According to break-expert Elina Furman, there are top five signs you're about to get dumped. Here's the list, according to her (and in her words).

1. Picking fights. No one is saying you have to get along 24/7. Constructive conflict can actually be good for your relationship. But if you find that your partner has become argumentative over petty issues like your clothes or choice of restaurant, that should serve as a warning sign that he/she may be looking for an excuse to bail.

2. Forgetting to call. Used to be that your phone would ring all day long with your sweetie wanting to make plans or calling just to say, "I love you." Now your significant other doesn't even call when he/she is running three hours late. It may seem obvious, but going from speed dial to a blocked number is a sure sign that your relationship may be nearing its expiration date.

3. Changing their stripes. A major change in appearance can be a sign that your partner is looking toward greener pastures. Whether they've chopped off their hair, lost 40 pounds or gone from a bold brunette to a sultry blonde, major cosmetic changes should be noted. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being a little vain, but if the change is accompanied by any of the other signs listed here, you may need to get ready to go solo.

4. Criticizing. If your sweetie isn't feeling you anymore, don't be surprised if he/she becomes less tolerant of everything, from how you brush your teeth to how you tie your shoes. Constant criticism is a telltale sign that your days as a twosome are numbered.

5. Losing sexual interest. A healthy sex life can make or break a relationship. If you find that your partner is becoming more sexually aloof, you need to get to the root of the issue. While it's natural to have less sex as you settle into a comfortable groove together, waiting weeks or months to have sexual contact is a sign that something is amiss.

Okay, has Ms Furman helped you out?
But she says not to panic just because your partner exhibits some of these behaviours.
That doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is over.
Check out for a combination of signs and not one isolated incident that foreshadows a breakup.

If you're worried that your partner is itching to get out, the most important thing you can do is sit down and discuss your issues in an honest and open manner. If you take these signs as your cue to improve communication, your relationship may just have a fighting chance.

My advice: ONLY if you think he's worth it!

Is Your Cell/Mobile/Hand Phone Your Life?

Don't lie! You never leave home without it, I know.
You can call it what you like -- cell phone, mobile phone or just plain hand phone -- but you guard it with your life, don't you?
Because without it, you might as well have lost your head.
Do you remember the early days of the mobile phone? It was a real novelty and anyone having one was, well, important or rich.
It was the humongous motorola phone. Ugly then but was quite a gadget to have.
And then the Japanese made those real handy ones for the rest of the world, and you and I could have one.
You know, of course, the mobile phone, in the early days when everyone could own one, had caused many a relationship, nay, marriage, to go bust.
Indeed. Indeed. Indeed. I am pretty sure that nothing has changed since.
We can laugh about it because it has not happened to us.
The finger on the wrong button, or the inept use of the mobile phone could trigger some of the most dramatic scenes imaginable. And ugly break-ups or divorces, for sure.
Of course, we all agree that the mobile phone was (and still is, I reckon) a great ally to have for that extra marital affair.
You know, you don't have to go looking for a public phone. Speaking of which - when was the last time you used a public phone?
The technology SMSes offer is phenomenal.
Aah -- the possibilites are endless.
Did you know that some people (you know I mean men), have more than one mobile phone because using just one is really inviting problems, and can cause hell at home. You don't want to trip, fall and get caught red-handed, if you know what I mean.
One for the office, one for the home (wifey and kiddies) and one for the lust-of-your-life, otherwise known as mistress.
You can bet that these guys with multiple mobile phones had been caught schmoozing on that little gadget by the missuses.
Okay, so why am I going on about this?
Well, I am reminded about the lunch I had with one of my girlfriends the other day.
She almost left her husband years ago when she "caught" him with a woman.
She was listening to some very intimate exchanges between him and a woman over her mobile phone.
Silly man! He had accidentally hit her number while doing goodness-knows-what, she answered the call, only to be listening to some very very hot action.
Why she did not leave him high and dry, beats me.
Must be love and that brain of hers not working.

So. Can you imagine life without your life-line? No?
Yeah....that's what I thought.
If it's any comfort, neither can I.