Can we ask God to help us stop loving someone because loving him brings more pain and hurt, because he loves you less now, because he is not the person you fell in love with, because he lies, because he has been unfaithful and because he has been breaking promises he made to you?
Why can't you cease to love someone when he loves you less than you love him?
Do I sound pathetic?
I wish emotions are something we can control.
Why can't we love with our head and not our heart? A little bit of both, maybe. Perhaps, when the heart cannot see the right in a situation, the head can take over.
Do you not wish sometimes that, with a snap of your fingers, you can decide to leave the supposed love of your life?
Do you not wish that you had made that decision 10 years ago when you met him and when he wooed you? Because you did not believe the "stories"you heard about him.
Do you not wish that you had trusted your instinct instead of falling so madly in love with him only to realise about 6 years later that you were really mad for falling in love because he turned out to be such a lying scum?
Why does love make women asinine and brainless?
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Love can make a woman brainless only if she can see the signs but still ignore it. Men are the same way too.
No one gets into a relationship with the intention to end it. But somewhere along the way, there will be signs to know if it is meant to last or not.
When you feel betrayed by him and yourself, we naturally ask God to stop loving him. We want God to punish him.
You cannot cease to love him because you have given yourself genuinely to him - heart and soul.
I was a brainless one with past relationships. I have learned from my mistakes. :)
JT : I suppose, we have to learn from mistakes -- ours and other people's.
Thanks for the poignant words.
Dearest Sister Witch s Broo,
My heart pains for you reading this post.
All of my life, I have been trying to figure the science of love - to no avail.
It denies logic and often left you mortified.
I pray you will find what you are looking for
i totally agree with JT's reply. love can make a woman brainless only if she can see the signs but still ignore it. why do u think women do that? is it bcoz we're so dependent on them? that we cannot live without them? the answer lies within. if we settle for less, we get less. so dont settle for any less. settle for more. u totally deserve it girl!
DUMP HIM! (if u still hadn't). just don't look back. march on!
elviza: thank you, sister elviza. i made a mistake in the past. i thought i have got it right this time. i am not a brainless twit. i think i am pretty intelligent. but i don't know why i allow myself to love someone who has not been totally honest with me, who has been unfaithful to me. you see, i would never have known it because he treats me so well, so loving, so romantic. if someone had not told me about him, and i did my own checking, i would not have known that he had been intimate with someone else.
oh well..that's life. men can be bastards, even the nice ones.
thanks again, sister.
KC: you are so right. i know i have made him sound so terrible. in a way he is. let me summon up enough strength to let my head rule me.
thank you.
Sister,
I know you are intelligent just by reading your writings. You dont need affirmation on that
I'm asking myself exactly the same question everyday now.
Call me silly, but yesterday I was thinking about asking a tok bomoh to make me forget him. Casting a witchcraft onto myself. Wonder if it works that way...
dear ari,
being a witch myself, let me tell you that it does not always work 100 per cent. sometimes, for some unexplained reason (actually, i know why), the spell goes awry.
so i wouldnt trust no bomoh, my dear.
most of them are fake and phony.
you have to trust yourself. will yourself to think good wonderful things about yourself.
i know it is hard.
take it real real easy, sister.
i know. life sucks..sometimes.
Desperate thoughts Witchy Sister, desperate thoughts.
I've tried La La Land, I've tried "I'm gonna screw you left right and centre" mantra, I've even appointed the best Syariah lawyer in town to that effect, all didn't work to get rid of the long embedded feelings.
In my case, it is also a third party, a 'miniskirt'. My court case is still pending, so technically, marriage has failed, but divorced - not yet. Soon.
We've heard stories where a third party casted a spell on someone to hate the current other, and it seemed to work!
My theory (still in a theory stage btw), why can't I ask the bomoh (ok, first I need to find a damn good genuine bomoh, such a hurdle! You know any? Hehehehe..) and ask him to cast the same spell onto myself?
Wouldn't it be an easy way to get rid of the feelings? I don't hurt anyone in the process. In fact, I'm saving myself from the prolonged pain.
Look at it as a pragmatic approach. If you have cancer, you see a doctor and take out the cancer. If you have heartbreak, you see a bomoh to get rid of the heartbreak.
I'm even thinking, if this works, we can save women at large from prolonged heartbreak. It will be a huge traditional medicine 'breakthrough'!
ari,
hmmm... an SYT (sweet young thing), eh? your case is coming up? are you naming names? you have kids? are you slugging it out in court? who's the plaintiff here? is it goiing to be amicable?
oh..questions, questions. and you don;t have to answer them.
and, my dear Ari, looks like you still so love him. This is so so so unfair.
how can i tell you ways to stop loving him?
go to the tok bomoh, maybe?
I dont know. i don;t trust them. unless we're talking of the "orang alim". i have never sought the help of any bomoh during those painful days leading to my divorce.
now don't you be laughing -- i sought His guidance. i fasted, i did all the prayers, i read the holy book, the verses that are supposed to be the salve, the balm.,
I emerged so strong (it could have been psychological) I couldnt believe it.
so, i suppose, we all deal with pain, grief and all those sad feelings, in different ways.
meanwhile, i'll go look for a white bomoh for you...
Case next month. No kids. My husband is the Plaintiff. The rest - I have the best Syariah lawyer in town to handle them, with a blanket instruction, "screw him left right and centre!"
So as you can safely deduce - not amicable. Love? It'll go away, in time. I just wanted to find a short cut. Found any powerful white bomoh yet? Heheeheh...
Dear Ari,
You go, girl.
Meanwhile.. I heard of this white witch in Gunung Ledang...
My dear Witchy Sister and my old/true/gila friend Ari,
Let me menyebok a bit since I refuse to look at files on my tables and the two chairs on my left and right are empty - meaning my partners/friends are not around the office.
Yes, the best syariah lawyer in town is damn charming man.... takes my breath away!
What a pity I am married. He he he....
Elviza: I shall surely look him up when that time (touchwood) comes for me to be needing counsel.
now, now, Elviza...tsk tsk tsk
take care, sister
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