"The merry year is born
Like the bright berry from the naked thorn."
~Hartley Coleridge
Let's hope 2009 is better! HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Thursday, November 27, 2008
The Cheat In Him
Oh, you know how I love articles that give tips on dating and loving and how to know if you man's a damn cheat!
A recent issue of Cosmo, featured one on detecting the cheat in your man.
It ran a simple test. Check it out.
A recent issue of Cosmo, featured one on detecting the cheat in your man.
It ran a simple test. Check it out.
Here's point to consider -- you have to realize that just because he possesses characteristics of a mangy scoundrel doesn't mean he's actually cheating on you.
"You have to listen to your gut as well as read the clues," says Gary Aumiller, Ph.D., a psychologist and coauthor of "Red Flags! How to Know When You're Dating a Loser."
Run through this list of wandering-eye warning signs to see if your partner is predisposed to prowl... and find out how you can deal.
Dating Factor: His Background
Cheat Predictor #1
If your man seems to have sailed through life without ever hitting the rough waters that rock the rest of us, beware. Privileged chaps tend to suffer from a sense of entitlement (read: bratty-boy syndrome), so he may believe that the rules don't apply to him. He's so used to getting what he wants, why should he stop now?
"He might cheat because he thinks he deserves to fulfill all of his needs, no matter who he might hurt," says Shirley Glass, Ph.D., a psychologist, infidelity expert and author of the forthcoming "Not Just Friends: Protecting Your Relationship from Infidelity and Healing from the Trauma of Betrayal."
"He probably has little concept of how upset you would be if you found out because he's too self-centered to think about your feelings."
"He probably has little concept of how upset you would be if you found out because he's too self-centered to think about your feelings."
So how do you know if your have-it-all hunk has other women on his wish list?
Glass suggests paying attention to how he copes when he's confronted with any bad behavior on his part.
Does he regret getting caught forwarding your racy emails to his friends but feel no guilt for doing it in the first place?
Does he blame others when he screws up rather than take responsibility himself?
If he can't see how his actions affect others, he's not likely to say, "Whoa, what about my girlfriend?" when temptation strikes.
Glass suggests paying attention to how he copes when he's confronted with any bad behavior on his part.
Does he regret getting caught forwarding your racy emails to his friends but feel no guilt for doing it in the first place?
Does he blame others when he screws up rather than take responsibility himself?
If he can't see how his actions affect others, he's not likely to say, "Whoa, what about my girlfriend?" when temptation strikes.
Dating Factor: His Career
Cheat Predictor #2
It's great to date a guy with ambition -- and his deep pockets definitely don't hurt when he brings you pricey baubles -- but the office environment can open the door to private meetings of the carnal kind.
According to Glass, studies show that when men cheat, it's most often with a work colleague. "Not only are people with similar interests side by side on a daily basis, but the time they spend together is usually when they're most energetic and look their best."
According to Glass, studies show that when men cheat, it's most often with a work colleague. "Not only are people with similar interests side by side on a daily basis, but the time they spend together is usually when they're most energetic and look their best."
Unfortunately, the bigger his wallet, the more likely your busy bee is to cozy up with an office buddy.
According to a study conducted by Jan Halper, Ph.D., author of "Quiet Desperation: The Truth About Successful Men," top-tier guys have affairs more often than those on a lower rung, and not just because big bucks can be babe magnets.
"Evolution has wired men to understand that the better they are at providing, the more appealing they are to women," says Alon Gratch, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of "If Men Could Talk."
"Since testosterone is what drives men's quest for power, if a guy has achieved status, he's more likely to act on his desires." Remember that little Oval Office incident?
According to a study conducted by Jan Halper, Ph.D., author of "Quiet Desperation: The Truth About Successful Men," top-tier guys have affairs more often than those on a lower rung, and not just because big bucks can be babe magnets.
"Evolution has wired men to understand that the better they are at providing, the more appealing they are to women," says Alon Gratch, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of "If Men Could Talk."
"Since testosterone is what drives men's quest for power, if a guy has achieved status, he's more likely to act on his desires." Remember that little Oval Office incident?
But before you start staking out your guy's office parking lot, realize that a career-oriented man might just be spending time working diligently.
If he sounds happy that you call during the day, invites you to his office and takes you to company parties, you're most likely his one and only partner.
It's when he acts more secretive about his work than a CIA agent that he's probably taking on after-hours clients.
If he sounds happy that you call during the day, invites you to his office and takes you to company parties, you're most likely his one and only partner.
It's when he acts more secretive about his work than a CIA agent that he's probably taking on after-hours clients.
Dating Factor: His Schmooze MO
Cheat Predictor #3
Your friends and family love him, and he always manages to keep you entertained. How could you not adore him?
But according to Glass, sweet-talkers often have a deep need for approval and thrive on attention. So what's wrong with dating a really friendly fella? Well, sometimes a smooth operator's need for the spotlight can't be satisfied by one woman's ego-stroking.
And if he's suave with the ladies, opportunities undoubtedly arise.
"Charmers meet a lot of women and win them over easily," says Aumiller. "So even if his intentions aren't more than friendship, they might be willing to move beyond friendship, and that's hard to resist."
But according to Glass, sweet-talkers often have a deep need for approval and thrive on attention. So what's wrong with dating a really friendly fella? Well, sometimes a smooth operator's need for the spotlight can't be satisfied by one woman's ego-stroking.
And if he's suave with the ladies, opportunities undoubtedly arise.
"Charmers meet a lot of women and win them over easily," says Aumiller. "So even if his intentions aren't more than friendship, they might be willing to move beyond friendship, and that's hard to resist."
To determine if your charmer might become a two-timer, watch how he interacts with you in social settings.
A guy who wants to play with other partners may brush you off when chatting with a new female friend or get noticeably more uncomfortable with PDAs when other women are around.
"He should act like a boyfriend, giving you side glances when he's talking with someone else, for example, or making sure he spends at least part of the night partying with you," says Gratch. But it also wouldn't hurt to remind him how attention-worthy you are.
When he chats up a chick in the corner, flirt with a few guys yourself. Once he sees that you have your own game going on, he'll focus back on you.
A guy who wants to play with other partners may brush you off when chatting with a new female friend or get noticeably more uncomfortable with PDAs when other women are around.
"He should act like a boyfriend, giving you side glances when he's talking with someone else, for example, or making sure he spends at least part of the night partying with you," says Gratch. But it also wouldn't hurt to remind him how attention-worthy you are.
When he chats up a chick in the corner, flirt with a few guys yourself. Once he sees that you have your own game going on, he'll focus back on you.
Dating Factor: His Friends
Cheat Predictor #4
The nightclubs, the bachelor parties, the dudes-only deeds we're better off not knowing the details of -- it's enough to make any woman worry just a wee bit.
Although boys-will-be-boys, bonding time helps a committed man feel less, well, trapped, the appeals of bachelorhood may make him long to be a free agent.
A recent study of 37,000 men and women showed that when guys see those around them splitting from their significant others, it tends to encourage them to do the same.
Although boys-will-be-boys, bonding time helps a committed man feel less, well, trapped, the appeals of bachelorhood may make him long to be a free agent.
A recent study of 37,000 men and women showed that when guys see those around them splitting from their significant others, it tends to encourage them to do the same.
You want to believe that his buddies would have enough sense to stop your guy from canoodling with some cute club-hopper, but they won't always be on your side.
According to Aumiller, "If a coupled-up guy's friends are all looking to get lucky, they may not only tease him about being tied down but also actually dare him to cheat. At the very least, they'll cover for him."
According to Aumiller, "If a coupled-up guy's friends are all looking to get lucky, they may not only tease him about being tied down but also actually dare him to cheat. At the very least, they'll cover for him."
Still, there's no need to ban him from hanging out with the bachelors if he's able to strike the right balance between his buddies and you.
"He should include you sometimes when he meets up with friends," says Glass.
Although your fella's frat pack might seem like the enemy, chumming it up with the guys (fake fondness if you have to) can do wonders for your relationship. Once you've earned their respect, they're much less likely to push your partner into prowling.
"He should include you sometimes when he meets up with friends," says Glass.
Although your fella's frat pack might seem like the enemy, chumming it up with the guys (fake fondness if you have to) can do wonders for your relationship. Once you've earned their respect, they're much less likely to push your partner into prowling.
Sunday, November 16, 2008
The B Word
I am so happy happy happy.
See...little things can make me happy.
You know how it is when you read magazines or watch television and you catch those visuals of those gorgeous celebrities and you look with envy at their smooth almost wrinkle-free faces, and of course, their so well-toned bodies.
Well, you're not really envious. You're just wondering how they could have those almost ageless faces. Once in a while, a naughty story comes up with pictures of how they actually look without their make-up and all manner of aids to keep them looking good.
Still, when they're made-up, they're gorgeous.
But first, let me say that I believe that beauty is skin-deep and beauty comes from within, that all of us are beautiful in our own way and that if your heart is good, you radiate that goodness from within and you will look beautiful......
So...back to those gorgeous celebrity faces....
I was watching "E!" on Astro channel 712, and to my utter utter delight, a majority of celebrities, including the A-listers, ARE on or HAVE had BOTOX, to smoothen them lines....
Can you beat that?
I was laughing like crazeee, I tell ya!
These celebrities -- young and old and older, male and female -- have BOTOX to help them look goooooood!!!!
BOTOX!
And I was envious.....haha!
Silly silly me!
I thank God for the face that He has given me. I will accept the lines and wrinkles with sincerity and ask for strength that I will NEVER EVER have the urge to resort to BOTOX! Amen!
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Obama Is President
I was listening to LightFM this morning, eagerly awaiting the topic of discussion. It is usually about, love, life and human behaviour. Or about money, or bad manners on the road...
I was kinda surprised when the DJs decided to talk politics. They decided on Barack Obama's victory.
The DJs invited listeners to say what they think about that.
Actually, I had expected callers to talk about ethnicity and the country's premiership.
Many of them wondered aloud whether Malaysia will ALSO change.
If they were more honest, they would probably say that they would like to see a non-Malay Malaysian Prime Minister.
Instead they went around the bush saying how nice that Americans have voted for a Black/African Amercian to be their President and how nice if Malaysians would do the same and see beyond ethnicity and race.
Let me say that I am so happy that Obama is President because it shows that Americans are a-okay.
For one racist red-neck American, there are thousands who are open and broad-minded.
The stage is set for a new US of A. Hallellujah! as one of my favourite bloggers hollered.
(Not to forget Rocky's post on Obama. But, aah...you've probably already read it.)
The US has really come a long way. Who would have thought that a Black would be occupying the White House?
How long did it take America to see beyond colours?
The journey was long and the ride was rough. No doubt about that.
But don't be fooled. Racism is still alive and kicking in the good US of A.
Back to the LightFM listeners who were lamenting about the country's state of affairs i.e still having a Malay Prime Minister.
Truly and honestly, I am fine with any kind of Prime Minister as long as he or she has the people's interest at heart.
I'm just an insignificant blogger. The only thing I can say is that America and Malaysia share very little, if, hardly, in historical background.
I guess we need to change many things, including the Constitution, if we want to have a non-Malay Prime Minister.
I'm not even sure about that.
Meanwhile....I am happy Obama is President. May he help change America!
I was kinda surprised when the DJs decided to talk politics. They decided on Barack Obama's victory.
The DJs invited listeners to say what they think about that.
Actually, I had expected callers to talk about ethnicity and the country's premiership.
Many of them wondered aloud whether Malaysia will ALSO change.
If they were more honest, they would probably say that they would like to see a non-Malay Malaysian Prime Minister.
Instead they went around the bush saying how nice that Americans have voted for a Black/African Amercian to be their President and how nice if Malaysians would do the same and see beyond ethnicity and race.
Let me say that I am so happy that Obama is President because it shows that Americans are a-okay.
For one racist red-neck American, there are thousands who are open and broad-minded.
The stage is set for a new US of A. Hallellujah! as one of my favourite bloggers hollered.
(Not to forget Rocky's post on Obama. But, aah...you've probably already read it.)
The US has really come a long way. Who would have thought that a Black would be occupying the White House?
How long did it take America to see beyond colours?
The journey was long and the ride was rough. No doubt about that.
But don't be fooled. Racism is still alive and kicking in the good US of A.
Back to the LightFM listeners who were lamenting about the country's state of affairs i.e still having a Malay Prime Minister.
Truly and honestly, I am fine with any kind of Prime Minister as long as he or she has the people's interest at heart.
I'm just an insignificant blogger. The only thing I can say is that America and Malaysia share very little, if, hardly, in historical background.
I guess we need to change many things, including the Constitution, if we want to have a non-Malay Prime Minister.
I'm not even sure about that.
Meanwhile....I am happy Obama is President. May he help change America!
Monday, November 3, 2008
A Lady Like This I Cannot Be
Over the Deepavali weekend, I met a lady. First time that we met. Let's call her Laura.
It was at a mutual friend's Deepavali luncheon.
So, Laura and I got into a conversation about life, children, marriage, religion and, well, the world and the universe.
She is a very attractive woman in her 40s. A Eurasian who's now married to a Muslim. She was married to a non-Muslim and they had two (now grown-up) children.
She has two sons with her current husband.
It was a nice afternoon as we finished off the marrukku. Antonio was with our mutual friend's hubby and buddies at the other end of the garden.
Ok...what Laura told me really left me gaping like an idiot.
She told me that she loves her husband. Otherwise she would have left him when she found out that he had an affair.
An affair? Sex and sex?
"You mean you forgave him? Forgive and forget? Why", I asked, in astonishment.
"I could also not forgive him and leave him....," she replied. But she chose not to because she loves him.
She told me that she never knew her husband was cheating on her, all those two years.
TWO YEARS? And he he got away with that?
She found out about it because his young mistress called her and admitted to everything. She had already converted to Islam in the hope that he would marry her.
That's the trick mistresses use.
Not getting anywhere after being together that long so you spill the beans so that something will happen. Doesn't matter what. But hell if I'm gonna go through this like i don't exist in his life!
Aaah... the mistress' mantra.
When she confronted her husband, he denied. He never admitted to a single thing that the young woman alleged. Not the lust nor the love.
The mistress came to Laura's matrimonial home. In the presence of the wayward husband, she gave details of the relationship.
He admitted to nothing. Laura did not react. There was no hell, no fury in her case.
Forlorn, the mistress, left..
"Did you believe her or him?", I asked.
"I believe there was something. I don't know if it was an affair. Even if I cut his hand, he' deny. I also believe that he did not want to leave me. So he had to make a choice," she said.
And Laura felt so sorry for the other woman.
Me? I felt a little disappointed because there were no fireworks. No scene.
Laura assured me that she saw no point in prolonging "her pain". She loves her husband. After all, he denied having had a relationship with the "mistress". He denied so vehemently.
Should she believe the "mistress" or her "husband"?
Laura said in a marriage, we have to always prepare ourselves to disclosures of our spouses' infidelity.
"These things happen-lah...it's ok. we just have to deal with it. It's not the end of the world," she smiled.
It must be the Eurasian in her. I swear.
"Yah...maybe. I come from a long line of very stoical and resilient people," she said.
Laura....I do too. But if I find out Antonio has been in a lust and love relationship with a babe, I don't know what I'd do.
But I know I can't be like you. Stoic and resilient, notwithstanding.
It was at a mutual friend's Deepavali luncheon.
So, Laura and I got into a conversation about life, children, marriage, religion and, well, the world and the universe.
She is a very attractive woman in her 40s. A Eurasian who's now married to a Muslim. She was married to a non-Muslim and they had two (now grown-up) children.
She has two sons with her current husband.
It was a nice afternoon as we finished off the marrukku. Antonio was with our mutual friend's hubby and buddies at the other end of the garden.
Ok...what Laura told me really left me gaping like an idiot.
She told me that she loves her husband. Otherwise she would have left him when she found out that he had an affair.
An affair? Sex and sex?
"You mean you forgave him? Forgive and forget? Why", I asked, in astonishment.
"I could also not forgive him and leave him....," she replied. But she chose not to because she loves him.
She told me that she never knew her husband was cheating on her, all those two years.
TWO YEARS? And he he got away with that?
She found out about it because his young mistress called her and admitted to everything. She had already converted to Islam in the hope that he would marry her.
That's the trick mistresses use.
Not getting anywhere after being together that long so you spill the beans so that something will happen. Doesn't matter what. But hell if I'm gonna go through this like i don't exist in his life!
Aaah... the mistress' mantra.
When she confronted her husband, he denied. He never admitted to a single thing that the young woman alleged. Not the lust nor the love.
The mistress came to Laura's matrimonial home. In the presence of the wayward husband, she gave details of the relationship.
He admitted to nothing. Laura did not react. There was no hell, no fury in her case.
Forlorn, the mistress, left..
"Did you believe her or him?", I asked.
"I believe there was something. I don't know if it was an affair. Even if I cut his hand, he' deny. I also believe that he did not want to leave me. So he had to make a choice," she said.
And Laura felt so sorry for the other woman.
Me? I felt a little disappointed because there were no fireworks. No scene.
Laura assured me that she saw no point in prolonging "her pain". She loves her husband. After all, he denied having had a relationship with the "mistress". He denied so vehemently.
Should she believe the "mistress" or her "husband"?
Laura said in a marriage, we have to always prepare ourselves to disclosures of our spouses' infidelity.
"These things happen-lah...it's ok. we just have to deal with it. It's not the end of the world," she smiled.
It must be the Eurasian in her. I swear.
"Yah...maybe. I come from a long line of very stoical and resilient people," she said.
Laura....I do too. But if I find out Antonio has been in a lust and love relationship with a babe, I don't know what I'd do.
But I know I can't be like you. Stoic and resilient, notwithstanding.
Saturday, October 25, 2008
I Met Rocky (Rocky's Bru)
I shouldn't blog about this! It's quite embarrassing. But it was the highlight of my week.
Remember I said that I'd been wanting to meet Ahiruddin Attan AKA Rocky of Rocky's Bru. Well, I did. The best thing was that it was not planned. Not exactly!
Nope, I wasn't about to email him or facebook him or do anything that would make me look hard-up. But, hell, I was so hard-up to meet him, I'm not ashamed to admit.
I think Antonio thinks I'm crazy. But he is just so sweet. He knows Rocky but will not introduce me to him because he says he (and probably Rocky too) will end up being very embarrassed.
I have been following Rocky's Bru from Day One. It was Antonio who introduced me to his blog.
I've been hooked since. This guy's one brave bugger!
From his blog, I go to the blogs on his blog roll. My other favourite is, of course, Jalan Sudin. She is amazing. Love her. I also like MM's Rantings, Stand-Up Philosopher, Zorro, Shanghai Fish, Zewt and Jacqui's Curve and Lady Patsy.
Then I got to know Elviza and Tok Mommy. I used to love Clark Gable of Pulau Duyong but sadly, he no longer blogs.
Now, back to that momentous moment!
I often see him in Bangsar with that certain someone whom I was duly told not to mention because it is none of my business. And don't speculate, I was nicely reminded.
So many times I wanted to say hi and introduce myself, but always stopped short because they seemed to be in their private little world that I didn't want to interrupt.
Antonio told me that Rocky is really very nice. On the ball. Knows stuff. Knows a lot of people. Very helpful. Six-foot two (or three) but such a gentle giant.
Won't that certain someone mind if I intrude?
Antonio said, no way. She's so nice too.
Anyway...boy, I am so nervous just writing this.
He was at Bangsar Village One, in front of the news-stand at the Grocer's supermarket, waiting for her (that certain someone).
Actually, I saw them earlier but I was not sure it was him, or her. I got closer to them as they stepped out of the escalator (from the carpark).
Yep...it was them, alright. So handsome! So macho! And she, so very attractive, and looking so good in a bright t-shirt with white slinky pants. Love her hair!
Then they headed for Basil, the Thai Restaurant. I followed.
They were seated. So I got myself seated too. Lucky me, I got a table very close to them.
They had their lunch. So did I. They chatted. Laughed. Chatted. Couldn't quite hear, although I was at the closest table.
But, I could feel the chemistry in the air. Aaah....lovebirds!
Meanwhile, I was figuring out when I could say hi.
And then. they got up to pay the bill.
I quickly got up too.
"Act naturally, act naturally, " I reminded myself..
So, you must be wondering when I met them.
After paying my bill (oh man. it was worth my tom yam and mocktail lunch!), I rushed out and saw Rocky standing in front of the news-stand.
I walked quickly. Aaah...finally, the moment.
"Hi!', I said. He looked up, smiled, but looking a bit puzzled because obviously I was a stranger, yet I was sure I must have looked familiar because I "lepak" in Bangsar too. Besides, I was lunching a while ago. at the table closest to you. Trying to eavesdrop. :-).
Er...remember? Hope not!
"Rocky?", I asked.
"I must be," he replied, ever so gently and politely. I thought...what a sexy man!
"I'm, er, your, fan..I mean...reader.", I stuttered, stammered.
"Oh?...that's always good to know. And you are?" He smiled. Man! Is this guy ever so tall.
I gave him my real name, I think. Nope. Wasn't going to say that I am the witch who leaves comments in his blog!
Then, she (that certain someone) appeared. She was so sweet. She smiled and said "hi there" and introduced herself.
My God! if I was a lesbian, I'd.....
I know I'm younger than her (Antonio knows her age because he was at her **th birthday party Rocky threw for her at the Press Club. Bloody romantic, I tell you!) but she really put me to shame. She has a great body. She is GORGEOUS!
Yep. No wonder. I could see just why!
I don't know what I mumbled. I might have said "I read you too!".
So nervous. They both smiled and I was sure they wanted to laugh just looking at how nervous I was.
But they were so sweet....
What was wrong with me? They're two normal ordinary people!
Then I said, "bye, bye...nice meeting you guys." I almost tripped as I attempted to "cabut".
I immediately called Jeremy and told him breathlessly that he didn't have to now bother introducing me to Rocky because I'd met the man himself. And a bonus for me, I met her, the LOHL (figure this one out, because Antonio said that's what she is to him).
And I was not disappointed! A fan more than ever, I am!
Now...let me run 10 miles. I need to be in shape.
So, that was the highlight of my week. And I have not gotten over it! Antonio is going around the house with earmuffs!
(So, Rocky, if you happen to pass by here...I've got a special broo for you!)
Remember I said that I'd been wanting to meet Ahiruddin Attan AKA Rocky of Rocky's Bru. Well, I did. The best thing was that it was not planned. Not exactly!
Nope, I wasn't about to email him or facebook him or do anything that would make me look hard-up. But, hell, I was so hard-up to meet him, I'm not ashamed to admit.
I think Antonio thinks I'm crazy. But he is just so sweet. He knows Rocky but will not introduce me to him because he says he (and probably Rocky too) will end up being very embarrassed.
I have been following Rocky's Bru from Day One. It was Antonio who introduced me to his blog.
I've been hooked since. This guy's one brave bugger!
From his blog, I go to the blogs on his blog roll. My other favourite is, of course, Jalan Sudin. She is amazing. Love her. I also like MM's Rantings, Stand-Up Philosopher, Zorro, Shanghai Fish, Zewt and Jacqui's Curve and Lady Patsy.
Then I got to know Elviza and Tok Mommy. I used to love Clark Gable of Pulau Duyong but sadly, he no longer blogs.
Now, back to that momentous moment!
I often see him in Bangsar with that certain someone whom I was duly told not to mention because it is none of my business. And don't speculate, I was nicely reminded.
So many times I wanted to say hi and introduce myself, but always stopped short because they seemed to be in their private little world that I didn't want to interrupt.
Antonio told me that Rocky is really very nice. On the ball. Knows stuff. Knows a lot of people. Very helpful. Six-foot two (or three) but such a gentle giant.
Won't that certain someone mind if I intrude?
Antonio said, no way. She's so nice too.
Anyway...boy, I am so nervous just writing this.
He was at Bangsar Village One, in front of the news-stand at the Grocer's supermarket, waiting for her (that certain someone).
Actually, I saw them earlier but I was not sure it was him, or her. I got closer to them as they stepped out of the escalator (from the carpark).
Yep...it was them, alright. So handsome! So macho! And she, so very attractive, and looking so good in a bright t-shirt with white slinky pants. Love her hair!
Then they headed for Basil, the Thai Restaurant. I followed.
They were seated. So I got myself seated too. Lucky me, I got a table very close to them.
They had their lunch. So did I. They chatted. Laughed. Chatted. Couldn't quite hear, although I was at the closest table.
But, I could feel the chemistry in the air. Aaah....lovebirds!
Meanwhile, I was figuring out when I could say hi.
And then. they got up to pay the bill.
I quickly got up too.
"Act naturally, act naturally, " I reminded myself..
So, you must be wondering when I met them.
After paying my bill (oh man. it was worth my tom yam and mocktail lunch!), I rushed out and saw Rocky standing in front of the news-stand.
I walked quickly. Aaah...finally, the moment.
"Hi!', I said. He looked up, smiled, but looking a bit puzzled because obviously I was a stranger, yet I was sure I must have looked familiar because I "lepak" in Bangsar too. Besides, I was lunching a while ago. at the table closest to you. Trying to eavesdrop. :-).
Er...remember? Hope not!
"Rocky?", I asked.
"I must be," he replied, ever so gently and politely. I thought...what a sexy man!
"I'm, er, your, fan..I mean...reader.", I stuttered, stammered.
"Oh?...that's always good to know. And you are?" He smiled. Man! Is this guy ever so tall.
I gave him my real name, I think. Nope. Wasn't going to say that I am the witch who leaves comments in his blog!
Then, she (that certain someone) appeared. She was so sweet. She smiled and said "hi there" and introduced herself.
My God! if I was a lesbian, I'd.....
I know I'm younger than her (Antonio knows her age because he was at her **th birthday party Rocky threw for her at the Press Club. Bloody romantic, I tell you!) but she really put me to shame. She has a great body. She is GORGEOUS!
Yep. No wonder. I could see just why!
I don't know what I mumbled. I might have said "I read you too!".
So nervous. They both smiled and I was sure they wanted to laugh just looking at how nervous I was.
But they were so sweet....
What was wrong with me? They're two normal ordinary people!
Then I said, "bye, bye...nice meeting you guys." I almost tripped as I attempted to "cabut".
I immediately called Jeremy and told him breathlessly that he didn't have to now bother introducing me to Rocky because I'd met the man himself. And a bonus for me, I met her, the LOHL (figure this one out, because Antonio said that's what she is to him).
And I was not disappointed! A fan more than ever, I am!
Now...let me run 10 miles. I need to be in shape.
So, that was the highlight of my week. And I have not gotten over it! Antonio is going around the house with earmuffs!
(So, Rocky, if you happen to pass by here...I've got a special broo for you!)
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Has He (or She) Got A Secret Life?
What an odd topic. But I'll tell you why I'm bringing this up.
A close friend of ours just confessed that he's got a "secret" life.
Like a life his wife does not know about. Oh no no. He hasn't got another wife. Not another woman. Nor a mistress. Nor another family.
He's got little activities that he indulges in that the wife does not know about.
He's got sms friends. He's got online pals. He's got cafe latte/capuccino buddies. He's got drinking kakis.
And they include females. Actually, largely females. In fact, his secret life covers females.
Let's call our friend Zaman. Nice decent guy. Loves his wife and kids to bits.
A wonderful friend too.
And he has a secret life.
Why secret?
Because he's kept all these from his wife. She does not know that he sms-es women, chats with women, has coffee/teh tarik with women, drinks (mocktail/cocktail/beer/whatever) with women.
And he just confessed that he has "gym" dates.
I asked him about the nature of his relationship with these women. Zaman said some of them are "close" friends, others are friendship developed over time. Nothing serious but there is some kind of intimacy at a very distant level.
What the hell is that?
"Oh you know. Cosy in our smses but nothing beyond that," was his smart-ass reply.
Well, buddy. It better not be beyond that because serious, sordid and God-knows-what can develop from very innocent contact.
Trust me, Zaman. I have seen that. Don't you even think it, boy!
I told him to be careful. His secret life may explode in is face.
What kind of deception is that?
My final word of warning -- if it's a lie, sooner or later, boy. Sooner or later.
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