Breaking Up With Dignity

(By Christian Adi, The Jakarta Globe)

In a relationship, when a women loses attraction to her committed partner and is attracted to someone else, while comparing you with the other guy on how good he is in every way you’re not, then it’s time for you to leave her better than you found her.

These are the top three reasons why you should leave her better than you found her:

1. You’ll come off trying too hard.

If you try to be the person that she wanted, it won’t work because she already knows you and isn’t attracted to you anymore, so if you suddenly change she might laugh at you because it may be unnatural for her. Therefore, she will less likely appreciate you. Let’s face the fact that perhaps the guy that she likes right now can fill the unsatisfied part in your relationship. Plus, the next candidate might have more experience and potential than you in her eyes.

2. It’s damaging for your character.

First, you don’t want someone to compare you every time or even sometimes, especially to another guy who is better in her eyes. In fact, the stupidest thing that you can do is to try catch up with this guy’s experience whilst your core competencies may not be at his level (business experience, local knowledge, and how to treat women).

3. You will have no value in her eyes and may come off as a needy loser with mental problems if you’re still yearning for her after the break up phase.

Even though we have already fallen for her, clearly knowing that she drives us crazy, we still try everything we can to reconnect. Sadly, sometimes the way she acts and talks to you may be asking for a bitch slap because one of us needs to learn to shut up. But nonetheless, at this point you know that she will never feel wrong, and if she feels guilty about herself, then she’ll run away or feel shame because the faith has been broken. There won’t be any mutual trust anymore, and the next great line you will hear from her may well be “If you love someone, you gotta let go.”

It's Over..

...when it's over and until the fat lady sings?

I'm no commentator of anything -- social or political issues. But, the Sodomy 11 trial of Dato Seri Anwar Ibrahim was beginning to wear me real thin.

Don't ask me what I think -- whether HE really did it. I wouldn't know, and neither would you.

But, if I were to be presiding over the case and forced to make a conclusion, I'd have to say that there was sex. I mean...you know. Can anyone really make up that kind of story?

But well, I'm no judge. I'm not Justice Mohamad Zabidin Mohd Diah.

I suppose you must convince the court and prove "beyond reasonable doubt" or something...
And because you can't take Saiful's word for it -- heck, there's no case.

And then you have Anwar's supporters saying that the case shouldn't have gone to court in the first plac. What? Why not?

Blah blah blah...

They all say the Prime Minister is the one controlling the court.
What?
Oour Malaysian courts are kangaroo courts, or didn't you know that?
What?
I really hate it when these people label our courts as kangaroo courts.

If I were a judge, I'd sue them all.

Just because "orang tersayang kamu" was on trial, doesn't mean that the courts are unfair.

How dare you!?

HAPPY 2012!

I can hardly believe that I have not been blogging for months and it's already 2012.

Why haven't I been blogging? This time, simple: no mood. Life's good. But no mood.

Now, it's 2012, for God's sake!

May all your wishes come true.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!