What an odd topic. But I'll tell you why I'm bringing this up.
A close friend of ours just confessed that he's got a "secret" life.
Like a life his wife does not know about. Oh no no. He hasn't got another wife. Not another woman. Nor a mistress. Nor another family.
He's got little activities that he indulges in that the wife does not know about.
He's got sms friends. He's got online pals. He's got cafe latte/capuccino buddies. He's got drinking kakis.
And they include females. Actually, largely females. In fact, his secret life covers females.
Let's call our friend Zaman. Nice decent guy. Loves his wife and kids to bits.
A wonderful friend too.
And he has a secret life.
Why secret?
Because he's kept all these from his wife. She does not know that he sms-es women, chats with women, has coffee/teh tarik with women, drinks (mocktail/cocktail/beer/whatever) with women.
And he just confessed that he has "gym" dates.
I asked him about the nature of his relationship with these women. Zaman said some of them are "close" friends, others are friendship developed over time. Nothing serious but there is some kind of intimacy at a very distant level.
What the hell is that?
"Oh you know. Cosy in our smses but nothing beyond that," was his smart-ass reply.
Well, buddy. It better not be beyond that because serious, sordid and God-knows-what can develop from very innocent contact.
Trust me, Zaman. I have seen that. Don't you even think it, boy!
I told him to be careful. His secret life may explode in is face.
What kind of deception is that?
My final word of warning -- if it's a lie, sooner or later, boy. Sooner or later.
7 comments:
Hellooooo there,
I decided to pop in to see who I was agreeing with on Tehsin's blog!
I liked this post. And I agree with you yet again - that 'secrets' cannot be right.
If you need to keep it secret, then, in your brain you know it is wrong.
For me, that is the essence of being unfaithful. So he has been serially unfaithful, for it has gone on so long! To share his thoughts, and his dreams, and his fun with someone(s) other than his wife? Surely, it's putting too narrow a gauge on it if 'unfaithful' is merely defined by sex.
So yah, sooner or later, it's going to all blow up in his face.
Pat
Dunno about secret life...I think they are just being secretly gatal and getting away with what they can.
And then when it blows up in their faces, the other party will be labeled the "perempuan gila" or he will go..."I swear it was her...I was just being (fucking) friendly..." But he forgets the part where he never tells the other party about some other party...makes sense?
Of course by then the other party has already somewhat stupidly maybe fallen for him (in the same vein of a heartbroken woman who falls for even Mr Bean or the Rotiman ie: she becomes blind)..and then things get ugly and ultimately... the bastard comes out CLEAN....and innocent....
patricia:
sometimes it is unbelievable. when caught, their sorry excuses are so pathetic, you just want to laugh.
i agree with you. it is pure infidelity when you are fucking online or thru smses.
thanks for visiting, Pat.
tehsin,
the two comments from "tigress" are from you.
the comments are ok. don't see anything wrong with them.
don't tell me you caught your X and his secret life was no longer secret?
Well, him too...and the experience of getting myself burnt by those who pretend to be available.
tehsin,
damn those pretenders!
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